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Your thoughts create your reality.
This isn’t just some woo shit, either.
It’s called confirmation bias.
When you hold a belief (even unconsciously) about yourself, other people, or the world, your brain is constantly looking for information that confirms what you already know. It interprets neutral (and even contradictory) information as supportive of your pre-existing belief.
If you believe that women are terrible drivers, your brain will naturally notice and remember examples of women failing to use their turn signals more readily than men doing the same thing.
If you believe that your friends are secretly annoyed at you most of the time, your brain will interpret your BFF’s terse text message (because she’s busy) as being pointedly at you (because you are so annoying.)
It stands to reason that if you hold some crappy beliefs about yourself, investigating your thoughts could improve your life. Figuring out how they are shaping your world might help you to suffer less.
And that's the whole damn point.
Investigate and recognize the scripts that keep you suffering. Look at where they came from. (maybe with the help of a therapist?). Many of us have internalized beliefs from our families (particularly in childhood) and from the culture at large.
Figure out what you don’t actually believe.
Be strong with your mind. This story, tell yourself, is no longer allowed. Give yourself a boundary. Don’t let yourself cross it.
Write some newer, better, truer stories for yourself. When the old narratives re-arise (and you know they will!), be strong. Firmly contradict them.
Remind yourself of the new story.
Don't let your thoughts call the shots.
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